Evidently Friendships are a Oneway Street

In the past year I have faced adversity over and over again. Yet, I am still a true friend to many. I thought I had a few really close friends. That was finally put to a test. My Father passed away in the last month and I was there for the whole thing, basically by myself. I missed roughly about an entire 4 weeks from work. Fortunately I had 4 unpaid days to take of the 6 that I was forced into taking, even though it saved absolutely no money. As a matter of fact it actually losses them money to not pay me on several levels. We get roughly 24 days a year of vacation and several for sick time as well. Funny thing is, someone who claims to be my "Friend" started questioning it. Not to me of course.

Also, for some reason no one seemed to realize the seriousness of my Father's illness even after we had to med flight him to the Mayo Clinic in Rochester, MN. It wasn't until I announced his death did it actually sink in to people. Geez, I knew the seriousness before I jumped a flight down to AZ. Hell, we about lost him in the first 24 to 48 hours.

So, some of my "REALLY" good friends. Did not show up at either the visitation, funeral or even send a freakin' card. However they were more than willing to tell me all their little petty problems and want me to drop everything to fix it for them. At times I feel like a freakin' bank. I end up just shelling out money/time and getting nothing in return. Sort of like the home mortgage crisis. Lending money to people that had no means or intentions of ever paying it back.

Now one of said friends will not respond to my e-mails, phone calls or other messages. All because I said I was probably too busy with dealing with all my personal issues to help them with something. Well, fine! I got along without them before, I can do it again.